Sometimes, things do not go as planned. Nothing in this life is ever perfect and that includes the things we want and the journey to get them. The business that showed so much promise then might be struggling now, the promotion you wanted so bad was handed to someone else. It’s impossible to not go through the usual disappointments and challenges that life throws at us. It doesn’t matter how many times you fail, what’s important is that you learn from the experience.
The fact is this, success and failure goes hand in hand. You can’t have one without getting the other one. It’s natural to be afraid of failing but don’t your personal fears keep you from achieving so much more. Who knows? Your greatest failure may inadvertently lead you to success! All successful people in the world are no stranger to failure. Before Donald Trump became a prominent business man that he is today, he went bankrupt several times. Before Steve Jobs became known as a tech visionary, he was booted out of his own company!
Don’t make the same mistake twice. Don’t fall into the trap of wasting too much time dwelling on what you could’ve done to change things. Rather, charge every failure to experience, move on and then do better the next time.
To cope with failure, you need to remain calm and reflect on what happened. This doesn’t mean making yourself crazy thinking what you could’ve done differently because nothing will ever change the past. Rather, reflect on how you can become better. Channel your frustration and anger in a positive way! Don’t let emotions get in the way of achieving what you want. Use your emotions to push you to give it another go!
Giving up not an option especially when you know you are on the right track. When you rationalize the reason you failed, you tend to give yourself an excuse to give up. For instance, say you want a promotion. It’s a long shot but you know you have the talent for it. However, you didn’t even try because you thought to yourself, the other guy with more experience will probably get the promotion. You didn’t just rationalize why you’re giving up, you didn’t even try at all. Don’t make excuses. If you want something, you need to go after it!
Failure is just part of living. Don’t let one failure define you as a person. Don’t let it ruin how you see yourself. Your failure does not reflect you as a person. Just keep going, move forward and try again. Don’t let the past keep you from being the person you always knew you’d be. Grow from every experience.
Dealing with failure may seem like a great reason to drown your sorrows. While you should give yourself a break after failing to do something, don’t waste time grieving and bounce right back! You won’t gain anything from wallowing in your own pain. Instead, make every failure a stepping stone, a way to make yourself better to take on more challenges ahead.
by: Jeffrey Slayter