According to a popular proverb, “It’s better to give than to receive” and most of us are taught the importance of sharing what we have to others. Doing good, being good to people and being socially responsible are hallmarks of a productive member of a community. Most religion teaches members the value of being good to others and how selfishness can destroy the inner self. In short, modern society puts high regard in being “giving” and deeming “receiving” to be a self-gratifying act which we must minimize as much as possible.
The question is, “Is giving really better than receiving?” If you look at it from a different perspective, you can get a better idea of the value of receiving. Without realizing it, almost every person is able to give properly yet most are poor receivers. Whenever we give something to our family members, relatives, friends, neighbors, charitable institutions, or even beggars and strangers, we feel good about ourselves because we know we were able to help someone else.
No matter how much we try to hide it, somewhere at the back of our minds, we are praising ourselves for what we have done. Quite possibly, many of us expects something good in return for doing something for another, perhaps, a blessing from God or the approval of the public.
One should not overlook the importance of receiving. When someone gives you a compliment how do you respond properly? Do you brush it off by saying “It was nothing” or do you shy away and let the moment pass by keeping silent? We should realize and remember that if someone thanks us for doing them a favor; the best response would be to say “You’re welcome.”
On the other hand, if somebody says something nice about us, a simple “thank you” is enough to show your appreciation over words of admiration. When we respond this way, we are able to properly accept, enjoy, and nourish these compliments while the giver is given due recognition for the kind words or action. This also creates a more personal connection between the giver and the receiver as they are both able to show their true feelings of happiness.
We can strengthen the bonds of our relationships by learning to be a good receiver. Every time we receive something may it be a material object or the warmth of someone else’s love, we should receive it whole-heartedly and then nurture it until the happiness grows inside us. Let the giver know his or her actions are acknowledged. This will make that person feel wanted and the things he or she gives are not taken for granted.
We should also apply being a good receiver to every good thing that happens to us everyday. Most of the time, we tend to focus too much on our problems that we tend to forget to count the numerous blessings we receive daily. Even the simplest things you don’t think much about, like waking up healthy or a gorgeous weather, are all wonderful gifts of life we should all be thankful for.
Because giving and receiving are equally important, there should be a balance between them in our lives. Don’t forget that the more we receive, the more we can give. If we go on thinking giving is better than receiving, the time may come when we have nothing else left to give. Appreciate everything life has given to you. It’s not important how big or small the blessing is, any kind of gift can give us joy and pleasure.
Let us all learn to be a good receivers. We should keep ourselves aware of all the goodness that is happening around us. Allow givers to be compensated for what they do by accepting what they offer graciously. This will help us have a more positive outlook in life which can attract more blessings. In the end, we can all be better persons once we become good receivers.