We now live in a world where we don’t get anywhere without depending on others. A fulfilling life is one that’s full of meaningful relationships. And whether you like it or not, no man is an island. You will, at some point in your life, need another to gain something.
As such, it’s important to choose the best kind of relationships we want. Wouldn’t you want to pick the best people who will one day add meaning to your life?
So how do you improve your relationships with people and consequently, improve your life too? Consider these tips:
We tend to have different perception of people that are closest to us. But rather than looking at them from the eyes of someone who knows them intimately, try looking at them from a perspective of a stranger. From here, you will see who that person is without biases, memories or emotions influencing your judgment. Looking at a person objective helps to see someone in a different light.
You will see start noticing things that you overlook about that person. It could be their little quirks, things they like or even hate. You can adjust your relationship according to that person’s personality to make your connection even more meaningful.
You’re bound to argue to even your closest friends, it’s inevitable. But learning how to be flexible enough to look and feel beyond negativity helps diffuse tension. If you’re angry about something, it will reflect on the smallest thing you do.
But if you try to rise above your initial reaction, and act against your habitual behavior, you will achieve a higher state of self. And this could be instrumental in having meaningful relationships with those closest to you.
Would you let a little emotional outburst ruin your friendship with someone who’s been with you through thick and thin?
It’s hard to keep it all in especially if you’re prone to emotional outbursts. However, cultivating a new attitude and understanding others even if you’re extremely emotional helps pacify the worst of situations. Don’t waste energy on negativity. Rather, embrace light and live in positivity. It’s good for the heart and the soul.
Learn To Step Back
If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. If you’re feeling a negative response coming towards someone you dislike, take a step back. Look at the situation without judging. Don’t be consumed by negative reaction especially if it’s not worth it.
Improving your connection with people is by no means a walk in the park. However, by becoming a conscious, mindful individual who have developed mental and emotional strength and flexibility, it’s quite possible to get more from life and transform your relationships. It takes patience, understanding and objectivity to see things from a different perspective, to cultivate better relationships with others and living a fulfilling life.
Remember, we cannot exist on our own. We need others to become the best person we could be. Wouldn’t you want to have the best relationships with those who can help you succeed?
by: Jeffrey Slayter